December 7, 2018 Doug McGhee


Your stories suck, literally they are sucking the life energy from you. They are creating resistance and dysfunction in your relationships, health and professionally.

Consider that much of our upset and suffering we experience in life are the result of our inner narrative and stories.

Your story about “not being inspired professionally” is the source of you not being inspired professionally.


You story about “your wife not wanting to have sex with you” is the source of your wife not having sex with your wife.


It can’t be that simple.

What if our stories were what was creating our current life experiences?

What is common for all of us is to focus on the external “problem” professional or personally and then look for solutions to change the problem.

New job, new wife or fix this or fix that.

What if the “problem” wasn’t the problem, what if it was as simple as you relate to the problem that is ultimately the problem?

Be curious and explore your relationship with the problem and you will begin to experience an opening in how you relate.

The formula that buries most of us:

Story X Feeling + Focus = Reality

* The story is amplified by a feeling about the story, which is where our attention is drawn and ultimately what we experience.

We invest in the story, which is fueled by the feeling produced, by the story and then we focus on that entire mess creating unfavorable realities.

So what gives?

Be honest with yourself, be real and drop the drama.

Tell the truth and get to the facts.

What actually happened?

When we blend or confuse what happened with a story we loose the opportunity to view the situation from an objective or neutral perspective.

Two fail safe options.

1) Ask yourself is this true?
2) Ask yourself what are the facts about the situation?

Once you connect with the facts, truth or what happened the formula shifts to:

Facts X Feelings + Focus = Reality

I assure you that you will have more of the life you desire and less drama and upsets.

What are you reacting to in life today? Try this formula.

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