Shhhhhhhhhh I know your secret!

One problem in a man’s life are the secrets and transgressions he tucks away.

The ones he hides from others…

The smallest secret demands attention and limits creativity.

It may not be significant but when you find yourself thinking about, your energy drops. 

You omitted a detail from a conversation with your business partner….

Your accountant…. or the IRS…

Are you withholding details  about a surprise party for your wife….

Each example impacts our energy and attention.

The longer we hide or avoid the secret the more attention it requires to keep it secret.

It’s like holding a beach ball under water.

It’s easy to do at the beginning but it requires more energy, effort, attention and focus the longer we hold it down.

You are holding onto a secret and each moment it drains, leaks and requires more energy.

Secrets or transgressions build up in life and rob us of creative energy, inspiration and joy.

We plot and build strategies to protect ourselves.

We don’t want others to discover our secrets.

What is worse for men is we formulate hidden agendas.

These hidden agenda, temporarily help us feel better about ourselves and the guilt of withholding or protecting.

Or lying…

Impacting relationships, sleep, health and causing anxiety, uncertainty and lack of power.

Being found out..


Paranoia and doubt….

On the affirmative, let’s use the example of the surprise birthday party for your wife….

Days, weeks or months you have planned a party.

Withholding information, logistics, telling mistruths to ensure the surprise is safe.

Enrolling friends and family in your plans.

The tension builds as you get closer to the big revea.

You avoid conversations or even looking into your wife’s eyes.

Fearing she might ask a question…


SURPRISE…  Celebration complete!

The tension and inner drama lifts and your wife is overwhelmed with joy and delight.

The party is a massive success..


What if it is a secret or secrets that you don’t want to revealed?

Imagine this occurring little by little over time with those that you love the most in your life.

The facts are men hide their secrets…

That is why we call them secret..

They also lie…

Being exposed scares men more than the pain of the secret…

Or the lie…

Until it doesn’t…

Or the ceiling starts closing in.

Separation, distance, rejection, loneliness, isolation, sleepless nights, and many more limitations occur.

Hoping, avoiding, pretending, tucking your secrets in the dark corners of your mind.
Makes things worse.

Does this make sense?

If this strategy was effective it would have worked for millions of men already.

But it doesn’t work.

What does work?

Every man on the planet has secrets.

I have secrets…

You have secrets….

Your neighbor has secrets….

What I have discovered and it’s quite funny.

Many of our secrets are the same but nobody is talking about them…


Because they are secrets.

This was me…

Transgression and secrets that held me back in every area of my life.

Worry, anxiety, fear, feeling tired, paranoia, doubt, lack of energy….

My liberation was not graceful by any means…

But IT WAS LIBERATION and from that I learned and want to share how you can be LIBERATED too.

Are you interested in greater freedom and liberation in life?

A deeper and richer connection with those you love?

Your wife….

Your children….

You will be amazed how easy and how liberating it is.

I know the “Mental Hell.”

I know “WORRY.”

I know “NUMB”

I know the “WTF AM I DOING HERE” feeling.


I have been where you are: disempowered and lost.

I was operating at about 50% power.

I was consumed by protecting my self image.

Distracted and missing out on precious moments in life.

This may not be you, but I have talked with hundreds of men…

And this is the one thing many have in common.

And the secrets, lies, transgressions and hidden agendas are holding men back in life.

Keeping them down…

As leaders…



Can you relate?


Then, would you like my help?

Not because I read a book, or watched a Ted Talk or listened to a podcast.

I lived it..

I experienced it..

First, click the link to complete a short questionnaire.

If you qualify we will  schedule a free one on one live strategy session. 

You will learn how other men like you have freed up massive attention and energy.

This system is essential for all men who want: freedom, liberation and fulfillment.

Men who are holding back and worried about being found out as a fraud….

Find the questionnaire here.

P.S. How much longer can you endure this in your life? I am not special. I overcame the limitations that I thought at one point and time where impossible to handle.

P.P.S. Resolve the gap. Liberate yourself from your secrets and transgressions, it is not complicated or difficult.

If I can do it anyone can.


Inward and Onward!

Doug McGhee
Founder of Realm.Men


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